Okay, so I bet you’re sat there thinking, how the hell is failure good?
The first time I dropped out of University it certainly didn’t feel good, it felt like I was failing, I didn’t know what I wanted to do and I’d gone from wanting to do photography to being a therapist to a beautician and working all kinds of crap jobs inbetween. Now I’m starting to realise that EVERYTHING always teaches us something.
It’s weird that we have some sort of check list from going to school, going to uni, getting a job, getting married, buying a house, having children blah blah. It doesn’t have to happen all in that order and there are some parts I would rather chuck myself out of a window than even consider right now. The fake list of what ‘success’ is, is quite frankly a load of BS.
What is success to you?
Success to me is, now I’m actually asking myself this question it’s quite obvious that success to me isn’t all about the money, because they all say money can’t buy you happiness then, yeah but I’d rather be crying in a ferrari…. well chances are the people who say that don’t have a ferrari… but success is happiness, feeling fulfilled in whatever it is that makes us feel fulfilled, I’m not talking about 500 likes on my most recent photo, I’m talking about how do I feel about myself in the photo. It’s about getting excited everyday about waking up and being ready for whatever tasks you have to do, we all know we can’t be excited EVERY single day of every single week but I mean the majority.
Why is Failure so important?
We learn from every single failure consciously or unconsciously. More recently I’ve been doing it consciously, so maybe I did a shoot and It wasn’t as successful as one I’d done before, or it didn’t go as planned, I now don’t get myself down about it, I look at what went wrong? was it the location? were the clothes right? was it rushed? did I edit them differently? and then once I’ve figured it out, I’ll change it the next time round and try something different. Anyone who is a blogger goes through this and girl/boy just cause you didn’t get as many likes and comments on your new photos as you have done before, it doesn’t mean you’re failing just pick it all apart and see if you did something different? You might have just posted at a really shitty time? It goes for you non bloggers too, wether it’s work or college, school or Uni, It all works the same way. The key is to flip the negative into a positive ASAP before you dwell, Ain’t no one got time for that.
Remember, success is whatever it is to you and don’t let someone else force their opinions on you, maybe that’s their perception of success. Just because you haven’t bought a house at aged 28 it’s okay, It’s okay if you haven’t had children and you’re 33, it’s okay if you feel like you have been single FOREVER because that guy is not gonna come if you feel like a failure that he hasn’t come yet. It’s okay, not to feel okay, just don’t make the bad feelings last for a long time.