We Need To Realise Failure Is Good

peacocksOkay, so I bet you’re sat there thinking, how the hell is failure good?

The first time I dropped out of University it certainly didn’t feel good, it felt like I was failing, I didn’t know what I wanted to do and I’d gone from wanting to do photography to being a therapist to a beautician and working all kinds of crap jobs inbetween. Now I’m starting to realise that EVERYTHING always teaches us something.

It’s weird that we have some sort of check list from going to school, going to uni, getting a job, getting married, buying a house, having children blah blah. It doesn’t have to happen all in that order and there are some parts I would rather chuck myself out of a window than even consider right now. The fake list of what ‘success’ is, is quite frankly a load of BS.

peacocksWhat is success to you?

Success to me is, now I’m actually asking myself this question it’s quite obvious that success to me isn’t all about the money, because they all say money can’t buy you happiness then, yeah but I’d rather be crying in a ferrari…. well chances are the people who say that don’t have a ferrari… but success is happiness, feeling fulfilled in whatever it is that makes us feel fulfilled, I’m not talking about 500 likes on my most recent photo, I’m talking about how do I feel about myself in the photo. It’s about getting excited everyday about waking up and being ready for whatever tasks you have to do, we all know we can’t be excited EVERY single day of every single week but I mean the majority.

Why is Failure so important?

We learn from every single failure consciously or unconsciously. More recently I’ve been doing it consciously, so maybe I did a shoot and It wasn’t as successful as one I’d done before, or it didn’t go as planned, I now don’t get myself down about it, I look at what went wrong? was it the location? were the clothes right? was it rushed? did I edit them differently? and then once I’ve figured it out, I’ll change it the next time round and try something different. Anyone who is a blogger goes through this and girl/boy just cause you didn’t get as many likes and comments on your new photos as you have done before, it doesn’t mean you’re failing just pick it all apart and see if you did something different? You might have just posted at a really shitty time? It goes for you non bloggers too, wether it’s work or college, school or Uni, It all works the same way. The key is to flip the negative into a positive ASAP before you dwell, Ain’t no one got time for that.

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Remember, success is whatever it is to you and don’t let someone else force their opinions on you, maybe that’s their perception of success. Just because you haven’t bought a house at aged 28 it’s okay, It’s okay if you haven’t had children and you’re 33, it’s okay if you feel like you have been single FOREVER because that guy is not gonna come if you feel like a failure that he hasn’t come yet. It’s okay, not to feel okay, just don’t make the bad feelings last for a long time.

 

 

 

 

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23 Comments

  1. July 24, 2017 / 8:09 am

    What a great post! ♥︎ I think we’re so used to things going a certain way in our lives, that sometimes it’s hard to remember that it’s ok not to do how everyone else does and maybe how you’re even expected to do! The ‘traditional’ way may be for some but not for others and that’s fine

    • lpblack8
      July 24, 2017 / 9:02 am

      Hey!

      Yeah you are completely right! Thanks so much babe xx

  2. July 24, 2017 / 8:10 am

    Love this post Lauren! As much as it sucks when you fail at something, it’s always a lesson to learn from. And I definitely equate success with happiness too! X

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    • lpblack8
      July 24, 2017 / 9:02 am

      Ah thanks Emma! It’s all a learning process! Xxx

  3. lovesomachi
    July 24, 2017 / 9:12 am

    This was such a lovely post and definitely needed! It’s hard to get back up after failure but posts like these just give you such inspiration to do better Xxx

    Love Somachi xx

    • lpblack8
      July 24, 2017 / 9:59 am

      Thank you so much Somachi, maybe I need to take some of my own advice today! Xxx

  4. July 24, 2017 / 1:24 pm

    Love this post! I had the same thing when I dropped out of uni and definitely feel the pressure at age 24 I should be near to being able to buy a house soon. But you’re definitely right you have to turn everything into a positive and everything does happen for a reason!

    Kirsty | kirstyeelizabeth.com x

    • lpblack8
      July 24, 2017 / 1:29 pm

      Hey Kirsty!
      Thank you Hun! That’s incredible! I’m 22 and am no where near haha, but that’s okay!! ❤️❤️

    • lpblack8
      July 24, 2017 / 3:20 pm

      Hey Kris,

      Thanks babe! It was £14 from peacocks!!

      Have a good day Hun xx

  5. July 24, 2017 / 4:20 pm

    Love this Lauren! Uni is not what I’d expected either. I’ve always learnt something (eventually!) from my failures. Love the cover pic too – you look so happy! Xx

    • lpblack8
      July 24, 2017 / 4:24 pm

      I’m back at uni now! But yeah thank you girly ❤️❤️❤️

  6. nina webb
    July 24, 2017 / 8:02 pm

    Love this post! Honestly I think everyone has different measures of success so what you say here is so true. Even if we think we’ve “failed” at something that’s just an opportunity to learn how to improve for next time! Xxx

    • lpblack8
      July 24, 2017 / 8:58 pm

      Thank you Nina!

      I agree for sure babe always an opportunity to learn xx

  7. Julie
    July 24, 2017 / 11:39 pm

    Failure is an opportunity to do things better!

    • lpblack8
      July 25, 2017 / 9:55 am

      Always Julie!

  8. July 26, 2017 / 11:33 pm

    I loved this post!!! Success is definerly subjective. No one can define your success!

    • lpblack8
      July 27, 2017 / 8:05 am

      Thank you Renita! Xx

    • lpblack8
      July 31, 2017 / 4:12 pm

      Thanks so much for your comment x

  9. July 28, 2017 / 7:08 am

    Great post Lauren!
    It’s so easy to dwell on something not going right that we forget to even stop and consider the positives in life. I like how you’ve encouraged us to accept a failure and work on being better, that’s such a positive mindset to have!

    • lpblack8
      July 31, 2017 / 4:13 pm

      Hey!
      Thanks so much for your comment it’s so true!!

  10. August 16, 2017 / 9:25 pm

    Love this post! 100% agree with all of it!! Think our generation puts even more pressure on themselves because of what we see other people doing on social media. Success is about happiness! When you’re happy everything falls into place.
    xxx

    • lpblack8
      August 20, 2017 / 6:02 pm

      Yes it’s so so so true! everything does fall into place when you’re happy xx

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